Haven’t had too many bad experiences with In-ears, but then again, I control my own mix most of the time.
I have been playing with Ultimate Ears Super fi 5 pros for about 5 years, but just last month I stepped up to custom molds.
I’m now rock’n the UE4s, and they are like crack for my ears, I LOVE them (not that I know what crack is like or anything…)
I would give In-ears another shot, but handle your own monitor mix…
Here’s how I set mine up.
I run a line from the monitor board to a small 6 channel Yamaha mixer.
I also run a line from my click track into another channel on the mixer. (I always use the click live).
I keep the mix of the live band low, and the click at a reasonable volume so I can hear it clearer than anything else.
When playing with backing tracks, the click is lined into one channel and the tracks on another. I can’t have a mix of the live musicians this way though because the backing tracks are fed out of the mixer to the sound board and my mix of the band would bleed through.